You know how religious folks tend to glorify “faith” as if it’s some kind of virtue? Well, it’s not. Faith is pretty useless in any context. But in some situations, a leap of faith can turn out to be a cold-hearted bitch.
Case in point… remember Governor Mark Sanford? You remember. He was that conservative politician from South Carolina who made several secret trips to Argentina to ca-noodle with his mistress, all the while telling his wife that he was “hiking the Appalachian trail” (is that what the kids are calling it nowadays?). Anyway, his wife was interviewed by Barbara Walters recently, wherein she revealed that Mark Sanford had refused to vow to remain “faithful” to her, and had fought adamantly to have that part removed from his wedding vows.
She knew this, and yet decided to marry the guy anyway.
South Carolina first lady Jenny Sanford recalls how she made the “leap of faith” to marry husband Gov. Mark Sanford even though the groom refused to promise to be faithful, insisting that the clause be removed from their wedding vows.
“It bothered me to some extent, but … we were very young, we were in love … I questioned it, but I got past it … along with other doubts that I had.”
Now, I don’t want anyone to misunderstand me. I’m not condoning adultery at all, and I’m certainly not the type of guy who would blame this poor woman for what happened to her. But to decide, on a “leap of faith,” to marry a dude who’s so ambivalent about monogamy that he’d go out of his way to avoid swearing not to sleep with anyone else shows an unbelievable level of naivety, rivaling that of persons who sincerely believe that Kim Kardashian achieved fame through her massive talents. (Unless by “talents,” you mean “ass cheeks, a hotel room, and a home video camera”)
It kinda reminds me of the all-too-common stories of religious women who stay in unhealthy, abusive relationships because of their faith-based convictions that God will change their husbands if they pray hard enough. Yes, it’s wrong for a husband to abuse or cheat on his wife, and the men who abuse women deserve the worst kind of punishment. But at some point, these women need to realize that the god they’re praying to has offered women nothing but tawdry, submissive, secondary positions in society. And the sooner we give up the unfounded notion that our morals are somehow dictated by some invisible creator (with a penis, allegedly), the better it’ll be for the status of women in general. Enough is enough.